Technology and Personal Relationships


The unstoppable, relentless technological progress is upon us. To a different extent, we are all used to being serviced by various gadgets and apps, not to say addicted. Would an average city dweller from a developed country be able to survive the loss of this digital structure that holds a person afloat in today’s world? It’s a serious question, with most arguments probably against this probability. Even the realm of human feelings has been getting progressively infiltrated by technology. Tinder and Grindr allow to quickly swipe through mostly short-term encounters, and phone tracking/monitoring apps are there to keep your significant other in check – if that’s your idea of a close relationship.

One of the ways people may depend on tech innovations is the alluring ability to track their loved ones’ activities on their mobile phones. The question is as old as the world itself, or at least as the concept of faithfulness – is he (or she) dishonest with me? Is there someone else? There are a number of ways to go about it – first and foremost, if there is a disruption of trust between two people, whether stemming from past events, or born in the mind of the beholder, the best way to deal with them is communication. A relationship is all about communication, and when sincere interaction stalls, the basis of a relationship is threatened in the most serious manner.

Options for the Curious and the Desperate

If you make a decision to go ahead and track someone’s phone, technically there are several types of options:

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  • Phone tracking apps, such as the customized and affordable mSpy, Highster Mobile and FlexiSpy that need to be installed on a person’s phone, and then go undercover, allowing you to see what he or she is doing. SMS, phone calls, messaging apps and browser history will all be at your fingertips – but please be clear about the fact that in most jurisdictions this is an illegal way to resolve your relationship issues – or any other issues for that matter, with the exception of tracking an underage child’s mobile phone.
  • The consensually installed partner apps, such as CoupleTracker and mCouple offer approximately the same degree of access to another’s life to both partners. They come with both advantages and disadvantages in comparison to the covert phone trackers. On one hand, they are undoubtedly more ethical and simply legal, on the other – they are a lot less efficient in attaining their objectives. Aware of the software installed, the person being tracked is more likely to abstain from questionable behavior or just find ways to circumvent it.

Traditional spying equipment – hidden cameras, microphones, following someone in a rented car in disguise – the flat-out paranoid ways that we’ve all seen in the movies.

Useful or Destructive? The Decision Is Yours

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Is trying to track your significant other’s activities the best way to go about restoring trust? Doesn’t seem that positive a method, on the other hand, it may lead to an even greater loss of trust. A wise approach to such an issue entails, first of all, the ability to consciously approach the very need to know more about your partner – more than you can ask him or her about openly. Will you be able to process this information? If you are sure that you can – put your best effort into open communication first, and if that doesn’t work – well, do you think that tracking your partner will actually improve your relationship? Is spying on someone conducive to building or rebuilding trust? Or will it, should you find something incriminating, only prove as grounds for more bitterness and further degradation of the partnership?

Personal or couple therapy is definitely a more promising means to deal with trust issues if direct communication is difficult. However, if you are still absolutely convinced that you need to know the facts at any price, the phone monitoring apps, such as mSpy, Highster Mobile and FlexiSpy are far more effective in obtaining information than their counterparts.