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To Spy or not to Spy?

Like it or not, it is a surveillance society, at least from a technological standpoint. If you feel suspicious or distrustful toward someone you love, there are tons of opportunities to check if your suspicions are justified or not. We leave behind numerous traces like chat messages, which can be hacked and read by a third person, and this is usually the last thing we think about at the moment. However, this is a kind of activity that can cause trouble. So, prior to going for something like that, please, think twice if the game is really worth the candle.


             1. Spying can cause pain. If you are experiencing an urge to look through your partner’s messages or websites he or she has visited recently, it is not unlikely that you will find what you are looking for. That’s like ripping open an already bleeding wound. The urge itself is a sign that your relationship is in a rickety state.

             2. Once you find some grounds to believe that something is being kept back from you, there are still things you are not aware of. This whole thing triggers emotions, which you can hardly control at the moment. In a situation like this we tend to jump to conclusions and misinterpret the information. There is a good chance that you will get hurt yourself and hurt your partner, who was preparing a romantic surprise for you.

            3. If you feel like there is no choice for you but to spy, you will get hurt regardless of your findings. Finally seeing what you have been looking for is very painful. So is seeing nothing, because it fuels your suspicions and makes you want to continue and take even more radical steps like stalking your partner in his/her way to work or elsewhere.

             4. There is a common misconception that spying calms down. It does not! Vice versa, it makes things worse. Spying results from a feeling of doubt and insecurity, and the further you go, the more painful it gets. Instead, it is advisable to take a break and think about what has triggered doubts and maybe try self-improvement and make yourself more attractive for your significant other!

             5. Even if you do eventually find incriminating truth, what you have done (the spying) makes you as deceitful as your partner is. Spying is no less dishonest an activity than cheating.

            6. This one is pretty simple: when deciding whether or not to look through someone else’s messages, ask yourself – would you like to have your SMS, ICQ, Skype, Instagram, etc. messages read by someone? Probably, not!

             7. Spying is extremely addictive! Once you start, it carries you away and you can hardly stop. In case you eventually find something, you will want more. If you don’t, you will keep trying until you ‘succeed’. Either way, this will not end well for your relationship!

             8. If you realize that spying is the only solution, you have to admit that you do not trust your partner any more. Trust is a foundation for a healthy and lasting relationship. Logically, once the foundation collapses, so does the structure resting on it.

9. One day, he/she will find out that you have spied on him/her. This is going to be one of your worst experiences in life. After that, your relation will never be the same!

              10. Finally, wanting to look through someone else’s private information signifies lack of self-trust. This is pretty much a victim’s way of living a life, which makes you vulnerable to the hardships and rigors of life.


This is not to teach you a lesson on how to build and maintain a good relationship. This is to emphasize that we have entered an era when sophisticated technologies are readily available, and there are much better ways of using them than trespassing on your loved one’s private area. Like, for example, sending an incognito declaration of love with a funny and beautiful picture or invitation to a romantic place!

Ethical Dilemma for Parents – or not?

Mobile tracking has become a common thing not so long ago – a decade at best; however, it took a very prominent start and the industry is proliferating.


Surely, with all the options and possibilities all these applications bring, there is no surprise, they have become so popular. Competition causes the companies implement new and more exclusive features on a regular basis and customers get all the more tempting toys.

However, there is a silver lining here as well. There can be no easy talk about any kind of monitoring without actually raising the issue of morale and ethics, let alone legality of such actions. Despite the fact that most cell phone monitoring applications are sold legally on the U.S. market, it does not stop the debate around ethics of the entire business. This especially concerns justification of such means with regards to kids – as ¾ of such mobile tracking software is bought by concerned parents.

No surprise that the temptation is to much to bear for many – such technology has been unheard of until recently and now there is a chance for every parent not only to know each and every move of their children but learn who they hang out with and text about after 10p.m.

A great number of parents see such option of additional control as a sign of good parenting; however, is it?

The idea of cell phone monitoring has got both proponents and opponents – both have their own arguments on the account.


A fair share of psychologists say that under the idea of proper protection is the desire of total control; and the purpose of parents is not to control but to guide. Upbringing, after all, is not about not allowing kids making their own mistakes, but rather, teaching to take the right steps as well as how to deal with the consequences. Parenting is much more about care without over-involvement than about total care and control.

There is also another issue here and it concerns distrust. Any app that a parent installs on their kids phone without notice is a notice in itself; and it clearly says: “I don’t trust you at all”. The kid’s reaction is likely to be obvious – neither do I.

This is the reason why most of psychologies advocate for open communication instead – about all the issues of life, and smartphone usage including. Otherwise we get a pretty adversarial relationship, which can end up sadly.


Proponents do not agree. They say that we live in a world with too many dangers and that parents have every right to be aware of their kids’ activities both online and offline. Mobile spy apps do more than good – they can help in prevention of bullying and any other harmful actions towards kids; dangers that the latter are frequently unaware of. Thus, this is parents responsibility to keep them safe from such threats – by any means.

Surely, it is a very individual choice of every family. The question of ethics and morale should be looked upon from the angle of each individual situation. There is a great number of applications that allow parents not to be too intrusive and at the same time to keep an eye on their children. Such apps should not necessarily be used discretely; but rather, the usage policy can be discussed and a mutual compromise can be found – the one that would suit both, a kid and a parent.


Again, we get back to the importance of open communication in the family. Upon cell phone purchase a contract can be drawn – the one that will clearly state both parties liberties, responsibilities and boundaries – the contract the terms of which will be followed by both. Perhaps, in this respect the issue of a mobile tracker installed on the phone won’t raise distrust and hostility but rather understanding of the fact that parents just care.

Things that Parents of Teens Should not Forget

Teenagers are sometimes very ungrateful; however, there are some things that they will definitely appreciate. Here are some of them and these tips can help parents and teenagers to find common language.

Do not Forget to Celebrate Their Small Success

Small achievements can seem unimportant and parents neglect them. However, the things that seem small and unimportant to an adult can be pretty crucial for a grown up. Besides, one thing that interests a parent – an exam in literature, for instance, – is not that of an importance for a teen if compared with an achievement to learn how to play a guitar. In this respect it makes sense to always notice such small achievements in your kids, no matter how small or stupid they can seem to a parent.

Let Them Be Alone

Next very important thing is to leave teenagers some space for their own. They are not kids any longer; however, many parents find it hard to get used to this thought. In this respect make sure to grant them the amount of privacy they need and want and you’ll see how much better your relationship becomes. Everyone needs space; do not forget about it. This also refers to the urgent need to know where your kid spends time and who they hang out with. If these things bother you too much, just acquire some mobile tracking app – by doing so you won’t be interfering with the questions and your son or daughter will feel much better with the share of privacy.

Leave Them to Their Decisions

Again, it is quite clear that kids will always be kids for their parents. However, it does not meant that the level of protection and commitment should always be the same. As kids grow up physically, they also do so mentally and morally and are able to make their own decisions quite well. They will only be grateful for the freedom of choice as well as responsibility – this is the only way they can actually learn how to be in charge of their own lives.

Teach Them to Solve Problems

The skill of problem solving can seem natural when you are an adult, a parent. However, for a child, and a teenager this is a new and absolutely undiscovered filed. The longer you try to problems and keep your precious little baby in a greenhouse, the more helpless they will grow up eventually. And the more problems in life they will have to face. Real world is harsh sometimes but it is parents’ responsibility to teach their kids to cope with the harshness and difficulties. This is something that kids will be grateful for.

Make Home a Place to Come with Joy

One thing is to make your teenage kid grow responsible and independent, another is no be neglectful. Making home a nice place where they will always find support and love is no less important. Teenagers need to know that there is somewhere where they will be loved and where parents wait for them always no matter what.

These tips are simple but effective; they don’t require money or much effort. Yet, they do help to create better understanding between parents and teenagers.

Ways to Track Your Other Half

It can be sad to say; however, not all people are satisfied with the fact of just being in a relationship; out of various reasons they tend to be not very trusting and all the more curious when it comes to the time spent separately. For such insecure partners there is technology that comes to their rescue.

Marital espionage, as it can be called, is really not a new thing; however, with the advent of the modern technologies and internet spread, it got to an absolutely new level. In accordance with the Daily Telegraph, we are getting more and more surrounded by various monitoring devices and when it comes to cell phone spying, the choice of software is really great.

Suffice to name such well-known apps as mSpy and MobiStealth as well as Mobile Spy and so on. They offer a broad range of options for tracking your spouse – undetected – which is a key thing here.

There is no problem finding an app that is best suitable to you as the choice is really good and the subscription prices vary. Really, with all the range of features present, any customer with whatever number of insecurities will find the option that will meet all their needs. There are more sophisticated apps and more basic variations.

Despite the issue of ethics and morale, these applications represent a really super great tool for spying. And well, they have already saved many people from wrong choices and lifetime frustrations. It is not really the option to solve your relationship problems; however, if there are already some doubts or suspicions, there is no easier way to check.

Spy software takes little time to install and put into action; however, it is easier to do on Android devices since iPhone ones should be jail-broken first. Overall, they are very reliable and they do work in stealth mode provided that that installation was done correctly.

Cell phone spy applications are generally presupposed for 3 major goals – that are keeping an eye on your underage kids, making sure your employees do what they are supposed to and also for the partners and spouses who are concerned about their significant halves. Recently there is an increase in interest from the third group as more people are curious about their partners. It is hard to say, whether monitoring each other’s phones is a really great idea for a relationship; however, for those partners who are in doubts – it definitely is a very convenient solution to check.

Selfies and Teens’ Obsession with Them

selfieReally, sefies seem to have become a new trend in art, or at least it is definitely one of the most popular ways of self-expression for young people these days. It also frequently looks like people got brainwashed and some of them get so obsessed with the activity that they post their selfies every day in all the places at all times.
It might seem that people are prone to selfie liking because they are so fond of themselves; however, it is frequently just the opposite. Most people, and especially teenagers, are eager to get approval and they are very anxious to get accepted by some reference group and they simply take the easiest road to their goal. It is much simpler to post selfies and get likes and be accepted and approved instead of doing something that people can find worth respecting.

Other kids just can’t be worse than others in whatever they are involved in or concerned about. In their sensitive age it is really very important to be a part of a group that treats you like and equal and distinguishes you for whatever you have to offer and they consider interesting. Feedback is essential and validation is necessary at this stage of teenagers’ development and with the invention of this “selfie” idea these things are easier to get.

Surely, there seems to be nothing harmful about people posting images of themselves on the internet left and right if it boosts their self-esteem and makes them feel better about themselves. However, when it comes to various social networks, they are not that safe. The fact that they are not open to every visitor registered or unregistered alike does not guarantee that a personal page is secure.

Attention seeking can be fraught with unpleasant occurrences. There are all sorts of people surfing the internet and scammers and etc. and these people hardly mean good. Surely, teenagers do not seek attention of such people consciously and on purpose; however, their frivolity can backfire pretty badly sometimes.

There is also one more side to this “selfie” medal and it is also not a very pleasant one. In their constant pursue of attention and approval teenagers get so obsessed and crazy that they frequently can’t stop. In their attempt to get a great selfie they tend to do bizarre and even dangerous things; some of such cases have already ended fatally.

Taking these things into consideration, it makes sense for parents to pay more attention to the things their teenage kids post in their social networks and how they actually spend their time and who they hang out with both online and offline.

Surely, it is always complicated to come to terms with 13-15 year old teenagers and rows and scandals are normal; however, when it comes to mobile phones, there is a good way to make the entire relationship and control issues easier.

With the help of cell phone monitoring application it is very easy for a parent to get the idea of their kid’s whereabouts as well as plans, contacts and social life in general. When it comes to selfies, spy software allows tracking all the images that are created and sent online from this particular phone. Having this app installed on their teenagers’ devices allows parents to have full access to their cell phones and eliminates the necessity of fruitless control attempts. GPS tracker allow knowing where kids go and other various features allow keeping an eye on teenagers without being overly protective and controlling. When it comes to selfies, the app also allows remote content blocking; which is a definite advantage and kids will just get puzzled why this image fails to download.

Employees and Discipline

It is not an easy task to run a business, no matter large or small. You will always have to face people who come hunting for the job as well as make up with all sorts of employees and their habits. However, it is irritating worker habits that employers are mostly concerned about.

There are all sort of irritating habits and the ones concerning hygiene are not infrequent. A colleague who whistles while working or likes to clean their fingernails or the one who smells as if they took a bath two week ago last time and so on – all these things are not unfamiliar. However, there are irritating habits that make employers more enraged and they are the ones that cause procrastination at working place, habits that are contra-productive and time-consuming. Here are some of them and an effective recommendation for employers on the account how to deal with them.

With the omnipresence of social networks there is no surprise that workers spend a great deal of their time chatting there. Excessive face-booking and tweeting as well as wasting precious working time in other social networks are definitely not the things that employers can approve. Surely, there are companies that restrict internet access; however, it cannot be the case of every working place. And here is the choice for the employer either to be tough or to take different measures.

Restrooms are also very much loved by employees as well as smoking pits. It can make any employer nervous especially if this happens too often and for too long. Surely, no employer can restrict their workers in the number of visits to the WC and reducing water consumption by no means can be considered as human and a way out. However, there are solutions that can bring more discipline to a working place.

Surely, there are also workers that allow themselves even more freedom at their working places. Very often they can sneak out of office and go shopping at lunchtime and get very late at pretence of being on an errand or a business meeting. There is basically no way to check sometimes and again, it costs employers money when work is not done. It is even more frustrating when such delays have direct negative effect on business (say, a conference or an important meeting is postponed) and an employer suspects that traffic jam is just the pretence.

Such irritating habits are very common and that is why many employers choose to opt for mobile tracking software for their workers, especially in the cases when the latter misuse their corporate phones to add to the aforementioned habits. Spy software for businesses is really a very effective solution for companies as it allows monitoring the activities of employees as well as their location.

Spy apps are very helpful in bringing more discipline to the office and they also serve as guarantee and protection from cheating and fraud at working place. It is hardly likely that workers will be pleased with the idea of being monitored but they definitely feel the effect of it and behave in accordance.

NSA Workers Spying On Their Exes

NSAIt has become known that a certain number of U.S. National Security Agency employees used the spy programs that are considered secret in order to spy on their spouses and partners.

In accordance with the letter to the Senate Judiciary Committee about a dozen of surveillance programs misuse cases were registered in the past ten years. These programs are the once that agency uses for the intelligence gathering and they are top secret.

The news has become a reason for serious concern in the light of the recent activity of the American government and its involvement into various international spy scandals.

The NSA workers are not supposed to use the aforementioned programs and in the light of all the scandals all the agency’s operations are now closely monitored. Thanks to the recent revelations from Edward Snowden general public is now much more aware of the scale of data collection both online and via telephone and such things cannot go unnoticed.

Surely, the surveillance programs used by NSA are of great help in terrorist attack prevention and they serve just as well as the protection tool against any possible threat to the state. However, they are never supposed to be used for some private goals of certain individuals and the fact of such incidents taking place can be only described as the violation of private life and cannot be tolerated in any case.

Taking into consideration the amount of data about spying that has leaked recently, it is only natural that doubts start to arise and speculations that this all is just the beginning and a tiny part of what’s actually going on behind the closed doors of the agencies.

Surely, it is much more than the violation of laws and trespassing on privacy and so on. Surely, it makes one thing how much actually our laws allow.

The information about the NSA employers who used their authority to spy on cell phones of their partners and spouses with no regards to their status and nationality is really something to think about. In any way, it should not be considered normal that a member of the agency should snoop on his former girlfriend first thing after getting access to the data collection system. This is just one example and they are actually numerous.

As a result 6 out of 12 cases were sent to Department of Justice for reviews and the violators were prosecuted in this way or other. However, some of them resigned before the hearing.